From the Present:

Let go of grudges or they will never let go of you. Throw your laundry lists into the laundry.

It happens. We do it. We fight. Lovers fight with lovers. Parents fight with their kids. Brothers with their sisters. Friends with friends. Bonnie with Clyde. Burt with Ernie.  Bus drivers bicker with their riders. And kids sometimes get into heated debates about weather or not Batman is better than Superman (He is. Superman never changes his underwear. They should call him Stinkyman).

Anyways, in today’s blast from the past, I re-read in my childhood diary about a fight I had with my crush Jessica (I mean, she’s not my crush anymore, that was so 1 year ago, now that I am 9-years-old and super mature, I just liked her as a friend).

One thing I am glad about, is that now, 17 years later, I have no idea what we were fighting about. And that’s the way it should be. With all fights. Even if it was 17 days ago. It’s best to let conflicts go. Let them go and forget about them. We all know people that hold onto them. Hell, we’ve all been people who have held onto them and we let them build up inside of us until they all burst out in one big giant explosion of unnecessary animosity. If it’s ever really that bad that you just can’t move on, you should move on from that person, be it family or friend.

Here’s an example of what happens when we hold onto thing:

Boyfriend: Hey, I’m pissed at you.

Girlfriend: What? Why the hell?

Boyfriend: Because you are always using my razor to shave your legs and you never rinse it out. That’s gross.

Girlfriend: WHAT!!!!!!!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME????? THAT! THAT’S WHAT YOU ARE MAD ABOUT. WHAT ABOUT THE TIME TWO YEARS AGO WHEN YOU FORGOT TO TAKE OUT THE GARBAGE. OR FOUR MONTHS AGO WHEN I HAD TO CLEAN YOUR PEE-PEE SPOTS OFF THE BATHROOM SINK BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH YOUR 30 YEARS OLD YOU DON’T SEEM TO KNOW HOW TO TAKE A PISS WITHOUT GETTING IT EVERYWHERE. EVERYWHERE!!!!

AND THE TIME YOU MADE ME GO TO YOUR PARENT’S CRAP BBQ AND YOU SAID WE WOULD ONLY BE THERE AN HOUR AND WE WERE THERE FOR 6 HOURS!!!

OR WHAT ABOUT WHEN YOU GOT BIG CHUNKS OF BUFFALO BURGER STUCK IN MY HAIR. AND I’M STILL PISSED ABOUT THE TIME THAT MY HAMPSTER DIED WHEN I WAS AT A CONFERENCE BECAUSE YOU FORGOT THAT HAMSTERS NEED FRICKEN FOOD!!! ARGGGG!!!!

See what I mean…

And just because the girlfriend in this example was cast as the crazy-grudge-holding-psycho doesn’t mean that women hold grudge more OFTEN than men . . . Wait . . . what’s that you say Ask.com? You say that women do hold more grudges then men. That’s so sexist Ask.com! Sorry, ladies, it’s on the Internet so it much be true. Don’t take my word for it: Click here.

But seriously, it’s not a gender issue. It’s an issue of being big enough to let things go, EVEN IF, it’s the other person’s fault.

For anyone, holding onto a grudge just isn’t good for your mental health. Let go and forgive. Until we learn to forgive and let go of the wrongs others have done us, the wrongs we have done to ourselves, and even the wrongs that we’ve done to others; we will never truly find peace.

Let’s all do ourselves a favor. Right now forgive let’s forgive ourselves for something wrong that we’re done and are still being hanging onto. It’s in the past. Let’s let learn from it and then let it go. And let’s pay someone else the same favor. Let go of a grudge and fully forgiven them of something.

Do it in three easy steps:

Step 1 –Identify The Source Of the Grudge

Step 2 –Put The Source Into It’s Proper Context

In the scheme of our lives, is this grievance worth holding onto? Does it make you a happier person? Does it make for a healthier relationship? Even if you think the person wronged you and this grudge is justified, holding onto it will just hurt you and them. Remember, if it’s really that bad that you just can’t move on, you should move on from that person, be it family or friend.

Step 3 – Let The Grudge Go And Try To Not Think About It Again or Bring it Up in Subsequent Arguments

From the Past:

April 27th, 1995 -Age 9

Dear Diary,

Today I got up and went to school. I sort of got into a fight with Jessica. I guess it wasn’t a real  fight. We are prolly moving to the country and there’s a neat fort there.

Good night Diary

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